Not feeling motivated enough, Ask yourself this
At some point of our lives, we all suffer with lethargy, lack of energy, lack of motivation. We just don’t want to get out of bed and work despite knowing how our not working is affecting us. Have you ever asked yourself why is happening in first place.
Lack of motivation due to health reasons is understandable but frankly how many times the real reason is “health issues”… rarely.
Lack of motivation because you are not feeling well is something temporary and should resolve automatically once you healthy again. But for a majority of population, the real reason is not health issues, it is “Not knowing what they want with life”.
Yes, you read it right. Lack of motivation is majorly because of your not knowing. Only when one is unsure, their mind will not be focused and this lack of focus is visible in the form of “lack of motivation” by anyone else. To explain it, start seeing the situation. Everyone, who is unsure about any choice, will take time before making it. “Why”, because making a choice is going to alter the coming life and they will have no way to bring back the current life. Despite of knowing that indecisiveness itself is costly, when people are not sure about “what they want” they are unable to make correct choices and thus they refrain from making any choice. Think of a journey with an intersection of 4–5 different paths, each one leading to a different place. Everyone coming on the intersection will halt their journey and only the ones that are aware of where they are going will be able to decide which path they need to take. Others will want advice, help and keep on looking here & there.
When one knows what they want in their lives, in present situations, then they start focusing on how the choices that they have in-front of them will affect the coming future events, they do not hesitate but make wise deicisions. Any form of time spent is only to prepare for the journey and not in confusing about various outcomes. It is only when one is unsure, they like to refrain from making choices. Then the mind wants more time to linger on the options and decide which one is more suitable, which one promises better outcome. Sadly, rarely do outcomes are good and bad. Mostly they are good, good in some other way and good in some second other way. Now making a choice is simply selecting one good outcome from a couple of different good outcomes. Anyone unsure of what they want with future will struggle with selection. So rather than trying to address your lack of motivation, try addressing your “what do we want”. Decide what do we want in future. Now depending on the choices in our hand, the question can be “what do i want in near future”, what do i want in long term future” or even both. Once you have an answer for these questions, motivation is only one step away. Knowing what you want, your mind will find a way to get to that outcome and your body will start taking actions toward achieving that outcome. To others, it will look like a self motivated person. But you will know, you simply know what you want and others don’t.
Now some of you may say that i know what i want and yet i am not able to summon “motivation”. To which i will say, may be you don’t. May be you have picked on a “want” that was not yours but of your wife, child, husband, teacher, parent, friend or of someone else. You have attached that want with your own being and now struggling to summon motivation with that. But sadly, you own being has yet not accepted it and thus it cannot align your body and mind to work for that. For any such want/desire, you can only cultivate motivation by continuously reminding yourself of the desired outcome and connecting that desired outcome with the options in front of you. But this kind of motivation will be temporary and it will never last and you will always have to rely on practising and reminding yourself of the outcome. That is the reason you feel motivated only on some days and not on others, you feel motivated after reading a book or watching a Ted-x video.
Unsure about “What do you want” OR Want to figure out which desires are yours and which ones are picked up in the process of growing. We will target them in upcoming articles.
